Without you, there is no us.

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January 2016 – Sri Lanka

In times of stress and worry, I fail to look after myself. Sometimes the pressures of life make it seem as though you come last, everything else matters but you. I am here to tell you and myself that this is not true, even though you may feel otherwise.

Whatever your worries and/or stresses may be, there are some things we all have to do to take care of ourselves. Not only will these things alleviate your stress but also prompt you to formulate more logical, objective and structured answers to your problems.

  1. Eat – nourish your body to nourish your mind. Eating is vital. Your brain is already on overdrive in times of stress, not eating will cause a malfunction. So do not forget to eat. Balanced meals would be ideal, but eating in general is a good place to start. (unless you are a stress eater, which in this case probably doesn’t apply to you)
  2. Sleep – my simple rule when making big decisions or when trying to get through something, is sleep. No better way is there to shut yourself off for a few minutes or hours, to rest and settle and approach the problem with a better mindset.
  3. Go outside – extremely overlooked when stressed is nature and the calmness it can bring. I find going for a walk (doesn’t have to be long) and focusing on the sky, trees (especially leaves) and the weather extremely relaxing. It also puts things into perspective, that this world is full of great simple things, you just have to notice them.
  4. Take a shower or bath – this is almost ritualistic to me. After a really bad day or situation, I take a shower almost to signify getting rid of negative emotions and thoughts and moving on refreshed.
  5. Read a book – sometimes I know that my problems are small and easy to deal with but I am still upset and overwhelmed, I have a go to book called ‘Opening the Door of Your Heart: And Other Buddhist Tales of Happiness’ by Ajahn Brahm who is an English buddhist monk that writes short thoughtful, quirky and light stories that gives you a change of heart. That is just my go to, whatever works for you is good.
  6. Journal/write things down – Externalising your feelings and thoughts is so helpful when you are overwhelmed and confused. You can reflect on what you have written and even make your own prompts/questions to answer, to better understand how you are feeling. I journal a few times a week and this space is also an outlet for me, writing what I am going through is a release.

 

And those are my 6 strategies that may or may not work for you, but they work for me. There are many others and not every problem in life can be solved with these. I acknowledge some problems are extremely complex and terrible, but for day to day get downs, these work well.

Take care of yourself and love yourself, you are important. 

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Adventure #4

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Another day, another adventure. 

Located not far from Gisborne near the Macedon Ranges is Trentham waterfall, approximately 1.5 hours north from the city of Melbourne.

Leaving midday, we travelled through the city, plain grassland, beautiful rural towns before arriving at the fall, that is hidden away in the forest.

The air is clean and crisp at the falls, consciously breathing is a must to truly appreciate and feel alive.

The soil is damp and the rocks are loosening as mother nature shifts and evolves through time. So be careful.

The day was splendid and spent in good company.

 

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Adventure #3.

Sharing another spontaneous adventure in Canberra.

Located a few kilometres from Gungahlin, in the small town named Hall is One Tree Hill. Sitting on the border of New South Wales and the Australian Capital Territory, this hill provides spectacular views of mountain ranges in the distant horizon, the plain grasslands of Canberra, its city and the paved soil paths in preparation for new suburbs to emerge.

Climbing around the mountain, instead of directly upwards, the hike provided a view from all angles which blended well with the clear blue skies and clean crisp air.

The silence was spectacular, only the sound of birds to break it, even then there was a great sense of calmness.

Typical Australian wildlife was also spotted, an echidna and wallaby to add to the experience.

As daylight faded, clear blue, to pink, the sun set to reveal a blanket of orange as darkness approached.

The walk, long and leisurely, picturesque, with clean fresh air, there is no better way to spend an evening at home. 

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Autumn.

Autumn represents inevitable change.

To celebrate my favourite season, I visited Rippon Lea Estate House and Gardens. Here I will share with you the bright sights of nature.

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As soon as you walk through the big iron gates, you are emersed in serenity.

The house stands tall like a centrepiece, but the surroundings catch your eye.

Every inch is covered with natures flora, beautiful and untouched.

Adventure #2

Canberra is surrounded by mountains. Being located within a valley, the area is abundant with natural flora and fauna. There’s a lack of buildings and cars, although rapidly populating, the area is still quiet and peaceful.

On a Sunday, you observe people spending their time outdoors. Parents riding two seated bicycles with their toddlers, friends on leisurely walks and serious cyclists battling the summers heat and oncoming vehicles.

Barbecues and picnics are quite common around the many beautiful and artificial lakes. In other words, people like to spend their time in nature.

Today I went on my second adventure. An hours drive from the Gungahlin area you reach Tidbinbilla Nature Reserve, home of the Gibraltar Peak and Falls. This was my first time hiking this trail which was a combination of easy and difficult.

Gibraltar Falls is a few kilometres drive from the Woods Reserve. A nice little spot with fresh clear water, nice views and a cool breeze.

The views were worth it. The pictures does not do it justice. Canberra is home.

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5 things I am grateful for today:

  1. Canberra – for being full of nature and hiking opportunities.
  2. My sense of adventure – Actually wanting to put the effort into doing a hike and accomplishing it on a hot summers day.
  3. My friends – Having like minded friends who are up for an adventure makes life that much better!
  4. Nature
  5. Mushrooms – I just love eating mushrooms, they would easily be my favourite food.

Till Tomorrow.

 

 

Things.

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April 2016 – Carlton Gardens Melbourne Victoria

I own a lot of things. I never realised the extremity of this till I moved away. The small studio apartment I moved into had a wardrobe space that even a mouse couldn’t fit into (exagerration) – but it was tiny. The mountain of clothes I had probably wouldn’t have fit into 50 times that wardrobe size. All my stuff was giving me a headache. They were everywhere and I had no solution. I ended up packing everything away under my bed, except things I usually wear or need. And I totally forgot their existence. 

This is when my journey of getting rid of stuff began. 

A few months later I realised I had all these clothes that clearly don’t matter to me because I forgot about them for months and they made no difference to my life. I didn’t think twice, I donated them all. This was before Marie Kondo’s minimalism trend, but once I educated myself on Marie’s ways, I was enlightened, especially her folding style.

After that everything felt like I didn’t need it and I had the urge to throw everything I owned out. I mean why do I need 30 makeup brushes, 4 red lipsticks and multiple bags? I don’t need it and I didn’t want it anymore either.

I won’t lie I definitely went through a phase where I thought owning more things made people think I was better but I have come a long way from those adolescent insecurities and I am glad I went through that to be where I am now. 

After my epiphany, I hardly ever go shopping and I have a rule that for everything new thing I buy, I must get rid of something I already have (to avoid any unnecessary hoarding). Every time I go back home to my old room, I get rid of more and more things, now it is pretty much empty except for textbooks and some sentimental clothes and objects. It is so refreshing. 

I used to have an obsession with buying books (I love the experience of holding a book and reading) but it got out of hand when I was buying at a faster rate than I was reading. My sister’s bought me kindle for my birthday (thank you) and I love it, I have stopped buying books and it is better for the environment too!

What I have learnt so far:

  1. Holding on to any object before buying while shopping makes me not want it anymore – holding it gave me the gratification of owning it. So now if I know I am impulse buying, I hold on to the thing and walk around the store ‘exploring’, if I still want it after, I buy it. If not, I never wanted it in the first place.
  2. Media makes you think you should have things, but you really don’t need it, be self-aware and show media who’s boss!
  3. Having less makes moving home ALOT easier.
  4. Having less things makes your mind a lot freer.
  5. If someone judges you for wearing the same outfit twice in a week, that’s their problem, not yours. Imagine the mental effort it takes to remember everything you wore so you don’t repeat it. No one cares, save that mental energy for something that matters.
  6. I am still learning, I still own a fair few things. Every few months I reassess my things and donate anything that I don’t value anymore or give away things to people around me who I know would value it more.

Remember it is about quality not quantity.

And thats relevant to all avenues of your life.

5 things I am grateful for:

  1. The opportunity to own things – I am very aware and appreciative of everything I had and have. I am very grateful that I had the opportunity in my life to buy things that I wanted, not everyone is that lucky.
  2. UberEATS – I am not proud of being so lazy that I am not bothered to cook or pick up the food that I ordered, but today was a day where other things mattered more and UberEATS made my life easier.
  3. My genetics – I am thankful that I am healthy and I try my best to be.
  4. Nature – today was warm with a cool breeze.
  5. My boyfriend – thank you for being who you are.

Till tomorrow.

Disheartened.

 

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9th January 2017 Canberra Australia – Mt. Painter Lookout

Being a student is hard. There are so many things you are expected to do at this age. To mention a few – have an education, have multiple years of experience before you graduate in order to land a job (realistic right…?), be competitive, have a social life, financially support yourself, find love and learn to be a grown up.

Obviously, the things mentioned above don’t apply to everyone, but right now the expectation is there for me. Some kids manage to do all this and I have no idea how but I am proud of them. For the rest of us, it can be extremely overwhelming. This is one of those times.

I have a casual job but during the later and early months of the year they don’t have much work, so I haven’t worked in about 3 months. I have had my own income since I was 15 and from a young age learnt to fend for myself and only ask my parents for money when I really needed it. It helped me value money and appreciate my parents support when I needed it.

The past two years I’ve had to ask my parents for money as I decided to move away from home to do my Masters. It is almost impossible these days to pay for rent, bills, food, textbooks and life in general while studying and working a few hours a week.

Since I am currently on holidays, it would be the best time to save up money. I have been putting off applying for jobs due to part laziness, part knowing that I probably won’t get the job after all the effort it requires and also because I haven’t had a good feeling about working in general. I haven’t come across a job I want to apply for and thinking about it makes my stomach turn in anxiousness.

I have never had a job for the sake of having a job. I have always enjoyed and loved the job because of the learning experience, the people or the work itself. I haven’t quite found a job that makes me feel good inside in a long time, that disheartens me.

This morning I woke up and decided to print some resumes & start applying. I had a good feeling.

Sadly, everywhere I asked had no vacancies. I left disheartened, my instincts are never usually wrong.

It isn’t anyone’s fault, I know that everything happens for a reason. I don’t think anything in my life had happened due to coincidence and I have always been able to find a good reason why when I look back. This is one of those times, I have to be patient. 

5 things I am grateful for:

  1. Birds – they always sounds so happy!
  2. Whoever discovered knitting – I decided to make myself a case for my kindle as opposed to buying one and I finally finished it today!
  3. Washing machines – Seriously, how smelly would our clothes be and we would be slaving away hand washing everything.
  4. Nature
  5. Vloggers – thank you for sharing your tips, tricks and interesting life with the rest of the world.