Moving to Melbourne after living in Canberra for a fair few years was exciting and hard on many different aspects. One major concern when I moved 1.5 years ago was friends. I had had the same friends for a while now, they were familiar and I was comfortable.
What I failed to realise when I was younger but understand now is the quality of the people you surround yourself with.
Some of this, I realised during the last years of my undergraduate degree where I voluntarily drifted from the people who were toxic in my life. They added nothing but pain, they didn’t make me a better person and they definitely did not make me happy.
It’s funny because when you are a child you struggle to differentiate good friends from bad friends. You just long to be friends with everyone, be loved and liked, most importantly, have someone to play with at lunch.
We are taught that having friends is important, but we are not taught how to be good friends or to tell the difference from good and bad friends. Or that it is okay to walk away without seeming weak. We are not taught how to respect ourselves and because of this so many children get hurt by their ‘friends’ everyday.
Because of this I only learnt to walk away from people who shouldn’t have had a place in my life, a few years ago.
Today, I find myself saying no to gatherings with people who I don’t feel my best self around without hesitation. Today I know that if I don’t find the quality in relationships, it probably isn’t worth my time. Today I know that if I am in doubt, the answer is probably no. Today I know how to respect myself but I wish I learnt that long time ago.
This does not mean I do not give people a chance, I do, it just means I trust my intuition. It means I cherish every moment with people who make me happy, enlighten me and spark joy. And the ones who make me feel uncomfortable or put negative thoughts in my head, are kept a little further away.
I am sure that some people feel the same about me too, but that is okay.
The key is to show appreciation, love and respect to those who treat you with the same regard. The people who don’t like you? Well that’s okay, because no one can like everyone.
Quality over Quantity.
5 things I am grateful for today:
Lazy days in – I was supposed to do my assignment, I sort of did but it was mostly a lazy day in.
Youtube – Man, do you hold a wealth of free knowledge!
Coffee – I wasn’t drinking coffee for a while but the cold weather has sparked a new love for it!
Creativity – Just loving my creative thoughts lately.
Nature – while sitting in my bedroom, I observed the changing weather all day long, it was beautiful.
Till again ♥